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Stuttering, relationships,job Hi, I'm here seeking help from all of you. This is my story: I'm a teenager, who just got done with college and landed a job in a MNC. So I have a weird relationship with my stuttering, sometimes i feel like i dont have it, sometimes it gets to a point where i can't even speak to my friends and i just basically dont initialize conversations and whenever they try to talk to me , i end the conversation quickly in the fear of them making fun. So sometimes i struggle with stutter, it usually comes and goes depending on the mood that i'm in, If i'm anxious i get stuttered on every single word, and if i'm happy i dont stutter at all. So i began to think i don't have stutter, and i'm stuttering just because of some kind of anxiety. At the age of 10, the school that i studied in Invited a doctor who specializes in Kids, so i went to see him with my parents and he asked me a general questions to see whether i'm stuttering or not and during that entire 5 min conversation i didn't stutter at all, and the doctor said to my parents that "He doesn't have any stuttering, he stutters because he sometimes try to speak faster than he is thinking". So then as far as i can remember i never really stuttered for 6 years, then one day when i was in school, one of my friends asked me to go tell a classmate of ours something, and what i did was i kinda iterated what i had to say in my mind, and when i came up to that girl, i fully stuttered. That moment was so frightening. Then from that point on i had few stutter situations, during that time i had a crush on my best friend, and whenever she is around i would never stutter, even on a long lasting conversation. I was really happy, Then when we both went to different colleges, we got into a distance relationship, and i didn't stutter during any of this period. BTW she knows that i had stutter, but she also knew that i didn't stutter all the time. She never asked me anything about it,I was speaking normally most of the time , let say 95% of the time i didn't stutter. And one day everything just went downhill, we broke up, then i later found that she broke up with me, because she wanted to be with a guy who is in her college and that situation made my stuttering worse, i started to stutter every single word, it was bad i didn't talk much to friend, talking on the phone made me stutter even worse and it was a nightmare and it made me depressed. Then when things got better, my stuttering began to fade away, until one of my professors asked me to present a class on a certain topic \[I was a bright student\] and i had to tell him that i couldn't because my classmates would know that i stutter if i stutter during the class, after that incident i was super anxious whether my classmates would find that i had some form of stutter, so i would usually dont talk much, Then i got into a relationship with a girl in my class, and just like before i dont stutter when i'm talking to her, i dont know why, i can talk to her in person, on phone for hours and i dont stutter a single word.And during my job interview I didn't stutter at all as well. So since my girlfriend doesn't know that i suffer from some kind of stutter i'm anxious to what would her reaction be when she find that out. Also what if i stuttering during job ? I'm super anxious about these things. If any one of you have read this post this long, then please tell me from your experience whether i have stuttering or I'm stuttering because of my anxiety, I wasnt able to get clear answers from anywhere, i wasnt sure myself either. Notes: Yes my parents knew that i suffer from this and only few of my school friend know about this and one of my best friend at college, but he said that he didnt notice that i had stuttering ever .So i dont know, Please help me.