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It will be okay! I’m a 20 year old guy living in the UK and have stammered all my life, it got really hard for me mentally in secondary school because of being an awkward teen already but having this impediment didn’t make it any better. Having said that, I had lots of friends because I was very lucky to grow up from a young age with these guys and they accept me for who I am. I’ll receive jokes at how I speak like how I would give jokes about how one of my mates looks like a btec Lewis calpaldi - all healthy! When I moved to 6th form I branched out and made new friends - at first I was terrified about speaking to new people because of the way I talked. They were very understanding and didn’t point it out (maybe because of British awkwardness). But what I learned from that experience is that if you can laugh at yourself others will laugh with you, if you treat your stammer as just something that is an aspect but not your whole self, others will follow! I’ve had jobs in customer service (supermarkets and barista). My stammer was not really an issue as long as I got what I had to say out eventually. Additionally, putting myself in a situation where I had no choice but to talk to randoms had great effects on my confidence and my actual speaking! So I would really encourage people who stammer to go out of their comfort zone because you will be okay! If you’re worried about finding love with a stammer, it’s my experience that people don’t really care about how u speak, it’s more about what you say and how u act. If they can’t love you for having a stammer then they have some problems themselves. So just make sure you’re the best personality you can be and always be kind and confident and you will find that many people will easily be drawn to you as a person. I’m at university now and I’ve found that no one really notices it, everyone thinks that everyone else is judging you, but we all have our own problems and it’s really not as stand out as you imagine. I have had some bad experiences, but I always say if people have a go at you or are cruel they are not happy people, and would have a go at you for anything. That being said I understand it can be a blow for confidence. So what I will say to people who are going through adolescence, or even older people who are struggling with it; it will get better I promise! The first step is accepting that it’s a part of yourself, and you will find that everyone has quirks and features that they are insecure about, but we don’t notice them really. So keep your head up, it will get better, and even when it feels like you’re at rock bottom (trust me I’ve been there) it’s always good to remember who you are as a person and that you are loved regardless! <3