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Thank you so much! It's very flattering and motivational! Lately I've really been more on the mindset of things rather than worrying over the technicalities and imperfections. I think with my job dealing with costumers it's really been eye opening for me. My last takeaway that made me care less and less all over again for any difficulties and imperfections was seeing people so easily move past it if I did myself. I think it may be because they can't worry about what they themselves think of my stutter or anyone else's because what purpose would that serve them? They seem to worry more what I think about it and how it impacts our interaction. I worry about them, they worry about me. I worry about their thoughts, they worry about mine. When I truly don't care and move on kind heartedly, I think it puts their mind at ease and thus makes me less worried myself over my stutter or anything because simply my own reaction to it seems to be enough and ironically that is not much of a reaction at all, just continue to be kind and myself. With the end goal being the same, that's just easier than to worry over the stutter itself so I veered more towards mindset again and my own self worth and so on. Basically thinking of other things, my health, strength, kindness, etc. It sounds easier said than done but even though there is a lag in the time it takes to get used to not worrying over it, it re-enforces with time because my interaction with clients showed they just aren't inherently aggressive the way the mind wants us to be ready for. Over and over it just wasn't the case and over time I was less and less fearful and that ironically translated to my stutter. First not being able to say my name again to being able and the first one to go and say it shaking their hands (something that felt impossible all over again in the beginning stages of selling). I think it took me 3 months+ and now I'm about a year in with thousands and thousands in sales and preserverance and not assuming the worst the way the brain is used to wanting to be in survival mode was, I think the greatest factor over any technique and any knitpicking of stutter bouts here and there. It just didn't matter. It may sound scary at first but it's true. They worry what I think as I worry what they think and I can encompass how I feel without saying anything. No need to over think it. Let go, as they say. People in general are a lot nicer than we worry over. They want to feel comfortable, it's not much to ask. It's pretty easy, just put yourself out there. Our fear is all that holds us back.