🐤 The ONLY 2 Reasons you get STUCK in a stuttering state (PART 2/2)

🐤 The ONLY 2 Reasons you get STUCK in a stuttering state (PART 2/2) 🐤 The ONLY 2 Reasons you get STUCK in a stuttering state (PART 2/2) If you haven't seen my last post about the first reason we get stuck in a stuttering state, or you don't know what I mean by a “stuttering state”, definitely read that post right now. Just click on my profile (while staying in this group) and look at my last post inside this group). We discovered the first reason we get stuck in a stuttering state is because we believe “it's an unsafe environment to get judged”. Now what's the 2nd reason? The 2nd reason also stems from our biological need to not be excluded from the group or tribe. It's the belief that: we do not have value to give When we believe that who we authentically are in this moment is not valuable to those around us.. We repress, hold back, and shut down. This causes us to store more and more tension in our bodies because of the emotions and thoughts circulating us, leading to more stuttering, leading to feeling like we have even less value to give. I want to make something clear. Stuttering isn’t the reason you believe you don't have value to share with others. It can be an additional reason, but it is not the root. Thats why, even if you learn a speech technique to speak “fluent” oftentimes it doesn't work in important situations because there's a much stronger underlying reason making you feel like you are valueless in the interaction. And this deep underlying reason is specific to you.. But after many years of researching and teaching this i have found a few common threads: 👉You believe you are only able to be loved if you are flawless 👉You set unrealistic expectations of what is acceptable to say in conversations 👉You give other people's opinions of you far too much value 👉You don't trust yourself 👉You don't live with integrity 👉You only feel safe to speak when you have full undivided attention. Now you may have resonated with some of these threads, and you may ask yourself “how the fuck is this connected to not feeling like I have value to give?” Understandable, and I could explain each one, but it would simply take too long. What's key to understand is that your stutter isn't the root reason making you feel valueless in interactions. And dealing with your fluency by speech techniques or tricks isn't going to heal this part of you. Looking at the common underlying threads and seeing what resonates with you will. Once you deal with the root issues, stuttering no longer becomes a problem. That's why I can say I have overcome my stutter, by addressing everything else in my life besides my stutter. My inner fears and self defeating beliefs I was holding onto. You have immense value to give. You truly, truly do. It's just your brain lying to you when you believe you don't. Just showing up in an interaction with an open heart is extremely valuable to others. It's just hard to see your value when you have been feeling inferior to others for a long time. Trust me I know what that's like. I hope this was eye opening to you. It was for me when I learned it. Much love.