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I don't stutter, but I'm in a longterm relationship with someone who does. I normally wouldn't try to comment on posts like this but I wanted to share what worked for him, since he's not on this subreddit. ​ In brief: when we met seven years ago, he'd had a moderate stutter all his life. It wasn't covert (too disfluent for that) and he sometimes felt pretty upset about it. However, he never let it affect his choices in life. He pursued a high-level career that involved talking to others, had lots of friends, socialised, had girlfriends, was part of a fraternity at university, spoke at family events and in class, and so on. He also used to attend Toastmasters, not specifically to help his speech but just because he enjoyed the challenge of getting up and speaking in front of people, but I think it did end up making him more fluent as well. For him, the challenge wasn't to speak fluently but just not to care about his fluency, and he got pretty good at that. ​ Fast forward to now. He still stutters sometimes, but it's rare now to the point where people don't often notice it. A cool thing is that he also doesn't notice it - when there's a moment of disfluency in his speech, it's so unremarkable to him that it doesn't register. Although a lot of people don't know that he stutters, he's still not a "covert stutterer" in the sense that he couldn't care less whether people notice it or not. I think that's pretty great. ​ He's not "cured" in the sense of being perfectly fluent, I don't think that's possible. But from the point of view of his attitude and his happiness, he's been totally cured for a long time now. Did I mention I love this guy? I'm really proud of him.