Anyone is allowed to be miserable. Everyone is miserable at least at some point. When you read comments talking about choosing not to care, be mindful of the tone you read it in. A disadvantage of reading text posts is that we can’t hear the way the commenter would say it. No one here is pointing their finger at you and saying everything wrong in your life is your fault. But for people here who are doing better than they once were, in some sense they had to choose not to care what other people think. Its more complicated than that but it really is the most useful piece of advice I could give, sorry. I will never tell a person to give up on trying to enjoy life more. If you need to vent and want no positivity comments, say that in your posts! I stay away from commenting on posts that say “just venting “. But don’t expect to start a suifuel club here.