Content
Hang in there dude, you can bounce back from this. I’d bet my next paycheck this was because you took that long of a break. Similar thing happened to me. When I was a young man, I found a rhythm with talking to girls and had a hot streak for a few years. Ended up getting into a relationship, it ended and I told my self I was going to “take a break “. 6 months later When I tried getting back on the horse, I had completely lost my touch. My wit, confidence, comfort level, charm, gone. I was back to an awkward, stuttering mess. I ended up having a dry spell that lasted a few years. I was miserable. I finally just stopped caring and started chatting up every woman who would give me the time of the day. Even women I wasn’t attracted to and had no intention of following through on. The old lady who drives the bus, the middle aged cashier, any chance I got, it didn’t matter (obviously don’t be a creep or inconvenience anyone). Solely for the love of the game. Target practice is key. I ended up finding my rhythm again, in and out of relationships/situationships, ended up meeting my wife and have been married for 9 years strong. You have to power through this and go through an almost psychotic phase of talking to EVERY woman who crosses your path. It eventually becomes a part of your personality, second nature. The repetition becomes a comfort zone and turns into something you don’t even have to think about. You just do it as a default, auto pilot setting. Talking to women becomes no big deal, it’s no longer a situation you have to try to succeed at because you’ve been there so many times. Guys who don’t stutter can have their game thrown off if they lose practice too. We all know we have to take extra measures because of the hand we were dealt, so if you want stay relevant in the dating pool, long breaks to discover ourselves is a luxury we just don’t have the privilege of indulging in. Accept that and don’t let this spiral you into giving up. I’ve absolutely tanked dates like this too, if not worse. Take it in the chin and realize it’s a minor set back and in no way is a reflection of your worth as a romantic partner. Dust yourself off and get out there, brother!