in my opinion, and with all due respect i assure you, you seem to be trying to align a social construct with a reality of yours that wont really ever line up seamlessly. as a stutterer, there are going to be some things that won't ever count as "strengths" in the traditional way. in the traditional construct, vulnerability for example is not masculine. when you have a stutter, you aren't afforded the ability to choose how much or how little you display vulnerability. but i would argue that it takes a greater strength to stutter day in and day out and still have the drive and confidence to fall down and get back up constantly while still being a happy, good, caring person to those who may depend on you. in reality, the accomplished stutterer is stronger than the equally accomplished non-stutterer (all else equal, and for however you choose to define 'accomplished'). if you use the traditional criteria to size up how strong or masculine you are, you'll likely spend your days feeling miserable. measuring strength for yourself is going to take you honestly assessing what it is about your commitment to living a successful good manly life with a stutter that requires a strength that's only built by having to carry a burden heavier than and very different from a non-stutterer (all else equal). like calloused hands. look at it from the perspective of being presented with the opportunity to switch roles for a week with a non-stutterer. how would that week go for you? probably pretty damn good. how would it go for them? it'd probably cut them up pretty bad because they havnt had to accept a fault they can't cure, or learn how to refocus an objective weakness as a strength, absorbing blows to the ego constantly, all while still mustering the willingness to work harder for a similar result.