commentr/StutterOctober 4, 2020

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1) It is not a mistake at all, as I think that we all need to figure out our own way of coping and managing it, so do not fault yourself for not being open about it. I am guessing that my stutter is slightly more overt than yours, and so for me, I have found that it helps ease my stress and helps give people the opportunity to be kinder and more patient. I'm 28 and until I was about 23, I did not talk to anyone about it except close friends and family and I HATED talking about it. I felt ashamed, less-than and wanted to wish it away. While I was at university, I was feeling really down about it as I loved being social but always felt so ashamed when I stuttered. I also love to travel and did exchanges abroad which was tough for my stutter as well. Anyway, I reached out to the university's speech and language school and ended up receiving speech therapy as part of their practicals. I also joined a support group that really changed my life and my outlook on my stutter. It forced me to take a good hard look at how I am going to manage my stutter, and forced me to accept it as a part of myself that will not go away. Since then, I still struggle with it and definitely still get annoyed about it, BUT I have found that by being open about it, especially in high stress speaking situations like interviews, teaching etc. that it puts me more at ease and others more understanding. I also have got to the point where when people make fun of me for "not knowing my own name" when I stutter on my name, for example, I get a little bit of enjoyment out of their embarrassment when I tell them I stutter. I just say matter-of-factly "I actually have a stutter." 3) I will paste the blurb that I put in my most recent cover letter for my final internship for teaching. "In addition to my professional goals of gaining more experience in planning and assessing, I feel that my personal experience of stuttering will continue to provide me with patience and understanding in the classroom. I have stuttered my whole life and have developed strategies to manage it in my everyday life. While it has never affected my professional life, I hope to continue to use my personal experience to teach children about being understanding of differences. Despite my stutter, school was a positive experience, and I look forward to continuing to learn strategies to challenge students and create a positive, open-minded, and inclusive learning environment. " 4) Again, you need to be ready to share your own experiences and I would never encourage you to share about your stutter if you are not ready. However, this is SUCH a great learning opportunity for your students about differences. I am not sure what age these students are, but my experience has been that younger students are very understanding when I explain what a stutter is, and how that is a way that I am unique and different. They often feel more comfortable sharing their differences with me! Again long post, but I hope I can be some help to you!

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Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideSchool & Academic LifeEmployment & Career