commentr/StutterAugust 25, 2020

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I just wanted to chime in as well. I'm 29yo, and I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 24. I thought, until that time, that I was NEVER going to have a LTR. It turns out I was just kind of anxious, and I had very HIGH standards for a partner-- which was good!! I was so lonely at the time I didn't realize how much worse I could feel with the WRONG partner. Well, I did find that out too! I've dated 4 people seriously in the last 5 years, now. I never could have imagined such success, romantically, before my first partner. I've learned so much from each relationship. My current partner is just amazing, and I have hope that we can put the work in to make this relationship last. It's scary, but it's really beautiful. The stutter does not affect my relationships, really, other than it just being another thing to navigate in our communication style and tactics. (I also have verbal affasia, cognitive difficulties, and a vocal tremor.) Embrace your voice, with the stutter and all. It's frustrating for me in the moment, but it's part of who I am. I will tell people "I have a stutter and a vocal quaver, so please bear with me." And then I try to talk! It's less pressure for me if they know why I'm sounding the way I do, and I can get them to slow the conversation and give me a chance to spit it out. When I really really want to talk but I cannot, I can usually whisper, sing, or talk in a different accent. Just a thought. Breathe, and you'll do great! Good luck!

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Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability

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Dating & RomanceIdentity & Self-Perception