I find that when things are going bad for me, I blame my stutter, and when things are going well, I forget I even have it. Right now I'm having a hard time at work, and finding it difficult to switch jobs, and it is so easy to blame that on the stutter. It's so easy to feel sorry for your self when things are bad, and when it feels like the stutter is getting in the way. As has been said, it's not something we can really control, and that is what life is like for us. We have to work much harder than other people to get things done. It's hard to do things that other people don't think twice about - ordering coffee, making a phone call, starting a friendly conversation - but we have to do it, otherwise nothing ever gets done, and it's only half a life you're living. But in doing those things, and in overcoming it, we show how brave and resourceful we are - when you see a person not let a challenge get in their way you admire them, and you need to start admiring yourself for all you do achieve, not focus on what you don't. The other thing is that it matters to us a million times more than it does to anyone else. If you have a less fluid interaction with someone they will forget about it in 30seconds, whereas it might weigh on our minds a lot more. People don't notice it as much as you think, and even if they do, they have their own crap to deal with, one not-so fluid conversation is not something they care about! I'm sure your speech therapist will tell you a lot about strategies and ways of managing it - I urge you to stick with it, as there will be things that work and you will notice things that make it worse and things that make it better. For me I do a lot of substitution of words, lots of distractions when I talk, and I try to control the environment - avoid times and places when it is too loud or too quiet. Anyway, as ever, I would say remember that the stutter is PART of who we are but it does not define WHO we are.