Ayyy lmao I know that feel so well. Yeah anxiety is a factor for sure. But "anxiety" is a blanket term for a LOT of different thoughts/ideas/patterns. One of these that I think of is the idea of being more into what others are thinking than what you're saying. That's something I mentioned in an earlier comment that I notice in myself, and it's probably also relevant in what you described. Maybe just focusing on my words/intent could become a useful technique for some people?? Gotta try it. But I wonder what else is in that "anxiety"