For everyone who is FED up with stuttering, this is the ONLY post you'll need

For everyone who is FED up with stuttering, this is the ONLY post you'll need A little bit about myself. I'm currently 23 years old at the moment but my stammering isn't as bad as what it used to be 4-5 years ago. I still do the occasional stammering but most of the time I speak fine. I am still trying to minimize the gap but I'm sure I'll tone it down in 2020. How I got stammering? I still don't know. But one thing that I know for sure is that it's related to breathing. I got my nose fucked when I was 8 and I had to breathe from my mouth for the next 10 years as surgery requires you to be 18. Hence, my breathing got heavily affected due to this. After going for a speech therapist for about 5 months, I didn't see any changes in my speech. It was till one day, I decided to start running. I was overweight. Around 90 kg or 190 pounds, and just wanted to feel better about one part of myself. When I ran for around 4 weeks, my stamina got greatly improved, I started to lose weight, and I actually felt better about myself. Since my stamina got improved I could greatly feel a big weight being lifted from my lungs as I could breathe more easily and it resulted in me speaking easily and not being forced to as it happens when you stutter. Before I list down a few points that helped me become better in my speech, I just want to point out that, we are humans, and humans don't like to consciously feel that they are dumb or stupid. And so anything else, like exercises a speech therapist tells you, you are reluctant to do it as your brain tells you that you're too stupid, you should feel embarassed, and that sort of thing. The first step is to acknowledge that you have a problem and you will deal with it. Nothing to be embarrassed about. With that being said. 1. If you are not active in exercising, start exercising from now. Whether you go to a gym, run on a treadmill or even start walking. Whatever helps you increase your stamina, do it. 2. Watch Deep-breathing exercises on youtube and make them a part of your life. You can do them wherever you are. 15 minute ride on the metro? Don't play games on your phone. Listen to calm instrumental music while you do deep-breathing exercises. 3. SLOW-THE-FUCK-DOWN when you talk. I can't stress this enough. Whenever you talk, just calm down and then say the thing you want to say. It does not put burden on your lungs and the capacity of air you have in them will support the limited words that you say. For example, if someone asks your name, don't blurt it out instantly. Take a deep breath and then say it calmly. The other person won't say Damn, he's a weirdo for taking a deep breath. 4. Go upto a mirror and start a normal conversation with yourself. You'll notice the facial grimaces you make when you stutter and focus on eliminating them. For example. If you stutter while saying the word "Race", and you see your facial grimaces and you're struggling to get the word out. STOP yourself from saying it. Take a deep breath and then say the word Race. Then see your facial expression vs before when you were stuttering. You want to look the person in the mirror who's saying things calmly. 5. We all have a person who we vent to for the deepest of conversations. Whether its our parents, friend(s), or whoever you feel close to. Tell them that you're starting this journey and you want to practice your speech infront of them. Slowly build the confidence from 1 person to 2, then 3, and then a small group. You won't get better unless you put yourself in situations that you're not comfortable with. I think Life knocks stutterers down the most and many of us just lie there and cry ourselves to sleep. But in this case, the more stronger you get back up, the more you'll notice your speech get better. 6. Keep your mind towards the positive side when you speak. If you think "I'm going to stutter" before you even said a word, chances are you'll stutter throughout the sentence. Always try to be an optimistic thinker even if stuttering has made you into a pessimistic one. 7. Last thing I want to say is that, try to practice things with the person of the opposite sex. So if you're a girl, try to practice these things with a guy friend, and viceversa. That was it from my end and I hope you guys get this stuttering under control as no one should have this. I've had my life turned into hell while i was in college, but it gave me enough motivation to go out there and minimize this fucking problem. If I can do it with my severe stuttering, anybody can. Good luck!