commentr/StutterMay 11, 2017

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Tell the interviewer up front that you stutter sometimes. LIE and say "it's not a problem for me; it doesn't interfere with work, just sometimes it takes me a little longer to say things." This is a way to sort of take the power back that you right now feel is out of your hands. At least partly. I know you'll still be nervous, but even so, doing this will cut some of that; you won't have to wait for that moment when the interviewer realizes something is "weird" with the way you talk (you know, when they don't even realize it's a stutter), cause you're telling them what it is in your very good matter-of-fact-it's-no-big-deal way and they will be put in the position of saying something like "oh, that's fine," or something. It's simply a better place to start from no matter how much you actually stutter in the interview. I'm calling it a "lie," part of what (I hope) you will say, and the fake matter-of-fact-it's-no-big-deal attitude with which you say it. But....this "lie" will become more and more true the more you are in the situation where you openly say, essentially, "yeah, I have a stutter; deal with it." Can't say it that way to a prospective employer, but one day you WILL say it that way to someone. That will be a good day.

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Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience

Subthemes

Disclosure & Telling OthersAvoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment

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intimidation_authority