commentr/StutterNovember 13, 2019

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Ha, I just had a phone interview with a job recruiter, I think that for a moment I fainted a bit as I was choking my ass off on each and every word. My severe stutter comes and goes, sometimes it seems like it’s waiting patiently behind the corner with a lath, to hit me as hard as possible, without a warning. I’m in a long term relationship, I don’t stutter severely when I’m with my partner, but I definitely bring that burden of social anxiety from time to time. Not everyone is capable to be with someone who stutters but there are people who can see you beyond that. I’m working from home as a freelancer, have online meetings with my team, while having 8/10 stutter, and since I’m payed per hour, imagine how much the stutter actually contributed to my salary :D jokes aside, but I definitely met people and job recruiters that were interested only in my skills and not my speech. Just because I have these phone calls and meetings that doesn’t mean I hadn’t have bad experiences. I was being hung up on many times as people thought an outage occurred. There is no day that I don’t think things would be easier had I not have the stutter. But being obsessed by that fact puts me in a dark mental and emotional place that I forget about all the things I’m capable of. What helped me the most was psychotherapy, not so much in terms of my speech but with going through life with it. Before going to the therapy I wasn’t asking for my shoe size in a store for ages. Always went with my mom and pretended like it was all spontaneous. Now I do that with the stutter, I’m not enjoying it but I have accepted it and try not to think much about it, at least not from the dark side. I reward myself with every small step that are uncomfortable but useful for me.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceSchool & WorkTherapy & Professional

Subthemes

Feared Words & NamesHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social JudgmentEmployment & CareerTherapy Experiences

Codes (4)

telephone_videossris_snris_antidepressantsemotional_stateperceived_judgment