**Social identity is the crux of our society.** **Be the change you want to see. Literally.** You want to be a *"man"*? Change your perceptions of what you think a man is and do things YOU want to do. Who cares about what other people think? I understand where you're coming from in terms of "weakness perception" and fitting into a mold, but there's ways around that; I wanted to do law school and I have the brain of a lawyer but unfortunately, its customer service and I don't fit in the mold. I work more behind the scenes and use my domineering personality (ethically) in other ways (like refusing to give up!) If you live your life by the expectations of society, not only will you never...EVER live, you will always be someone else's b\*\*\*\*. That doesn't sound very manly does it? **Be the change.**