One of biggest fears/insecurities is being perceived by others as incompetent...

One of biggest fears/insecurities is being perceived by others as incompetent... This directly ties in with how I perceive my own stutter. Stuttering has brought me so much pain, anxiety, and self doubt through out the years that I sort of separated it from myself in my head to prevent myself from seeing myself as the problem. It’s easier for me to put the blame on *it* than putting the blame on myself. It isn’t healthy. You see, I’ve equated stuttering with bad and fluency with good. I want to be less of one thing and more of the other. I’m not the problem though. Stuttering isn’t the problem. The problem lies with my attitude towards it. Perfect fluency is a fairytale. Not even people who don’t stutter stutter sometimes. I make it an unbearable omen, when I should really be looking at as just another obstacle. Once I stop looking at all of this through these gloomy tinted glasses, the sky’s the limit. What has been your relationship with your stutter, and what’s your relationship with it now?