commentr/StutterOctober 14, 2024

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I was talking out-loud to myself by physically making sounds out my mouth. I don’t do an inner-monologue either, to me it feels like I’m ’cheating’. I’d rather not even formate a sentence at all when I’m by myself. When you’re by yourself, DON’T even think of speaking. If you’re alone in your car driving, just think about driving. Don’t speak at all by yourself. Just close your mouth. This was a VERY, VERY bad habit of mine. I spoke out loud so many times to myself, and I fucked up and blocked on certain words. Then, my day would get ruined and my ego would get hurt. Imagine you waking up at 8AM and then trying to prove to yourself “I can say this word!” And then when you talk out loud by yourself on a word you have problems with, you can’t say it. You block on it, and it kills your mood and makes you anxious for the whole day? Thats what happened to me. **I shut my mouth for a week and didn’t speak to myself or said my thoughts out loud, my anxiety dropped significantly and my speech improved like crazy.** It was unbelievable how this habit messed me up. Now, I don’t even talk to myself at all. **Any fluent person you see don’t talk to themselves, that was another thing I was doing wrong.** *TLDR:* When you’re by yourself in your house or at work, or wherever, **don’t speak out loud to yourself to try and try to prove a point and say the word you block on to get that ‘win’ over yourself** Fight the urge and just close your mouth. **Don’t speak at all when you’re alone.**

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience

Subthemes

Overthinking & MonitoringAvoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment