The short answer: it comes with time. The long answer: It comes with time once you have the confidence to know who you are and that the people who put you down have less than 0 sway on your life. Allow me to share the EXACT moment I stopped caring I remember it like it was yesterday: I have been maliciously mocked and ridiculed for my stutter as all of us have, several years ago in high school there was this kid who bullied me all through middle school and it carried over into high school let’s call him Chet. Chet would make fun of me with his posse every time he saw me because he knew I “Talked funny” and would say some very reprehensible things to me and I took it all to heart which led to (trigger warning) >!self harm, depression, suicidal thoughts, and just wanting to die!< all because of something I can’t control, this guy and his group of idiots were literally controlling my life. Well one day I had a thought, “Why do I go home everyday harping over what this dude says about me? Why do I care so much? Who is he to have any say over me at all?” And that was that. From that point on I knew that I was in control of my life and there is not a single person that is going to dictate me or tell me how I should act or speak ESPECIALLY if I can’t control it and this stutter is a part of me it makes me who I am BUT it doesn’t DEFINE me. So the next day Chet started his daily “Fuck with me” routine, he put hands on me, we got into a fist fight, and we never spoke again. I think it goes without saying I am obviously not advocating for you to beat up everyone who says something off color to you because unfortunately that will happen forever due to the unwavering fortitude of peoples ignorance. I am 1000% advocating that you stand your ground against any and all attacks against your stutter even just verbally. You look better at eye level not as a floor mat! I have been brutally mocked at my place of employment in my adult life, but this situation made me see that I could not give any less of a shit what people say about me or to me. Apologizes for the long post I’m just very passionate about this topic, hope this helped in some way my friend! TL;DR: FUCK people who think they can control you.