postr/StutterMarch 21, 2025

Being a girl who slutters (Does pretty privilege exist?)

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Being a girl who slutters (Does pretty privilege exist?) Being a girl who stutters Hi, I recently found a post about a girl saying that a boy told her that attractive girls have it easier when it comes to forming relationships or friendships. I’m a girl who has stuttered since I was born. Thankfully, I haven’t been bullied in high school or college (so far). I’ve always had friends who never said anything bad about my stutter. Once, a friend told me, I think the fact that you stutter is part of your personality and makes you unique. I stutter a lot with friends (but I can still get my point across), and it was rare that none of my friends ever pointed it out—except for one, but that’s because he studies disabilities in his career. I consider myself pretty, and I think that makes it easier for people not to make fun of me. I always found it strange that my ex-boyfriend never said anything about my stutter, and neither did his friends. When I say that he never said anything, I mean that he never asked me about it or pointed it out. My friends never did either—they know, but like I said, they never mention it. That made me think that we are often too hard on ourselves, and maybe people don’t notice our stutter as much as we do. But it always made me wonder if the fact that I'm pretty has prevented people from making fun of me. I also have bipolar disorder, and it has never stopped a guy from talking to me or falling in love with me. I know these things are not valid reasons to make someone feel stupid, but you know how mean people can be. I go to a speech therapist, and she once pointed out that it’s amazing I was never bullied (so far—you never know, hahaha). I’ve always tried to make sure that my stutter doesn’t stop me from doing the things a fluent speaker can do. I try to always speak in class, give oral exams, i have a lot of friends, and now I’m dating a guy, and on all our dates, I’ve stuttered a lot, yet he has never said anything about it. Also, the fact that I take medication for my mental health has never been a reason for guys to stop talking to me. And one random thing I’ve noticed is that I stuttered a lot less when I was really depressed—I mean, during that time, I was practically a fluent speaker. Does anyone have a similar experience?

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Identity & DisabilitySocial & RelationshipsCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience

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Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideDating & RomanceStress & Fight/FlightSadness & Hopelessness