Idk. I get that, but the bad stuff is just as vital to who i am as the good stuff. And, idk how to separate those. For example, if i didn’t stutter 100% wouldn’t have met my wife. She and I were in different states and I only moved because of grad school and I ONLY went to grad school there because of my stuttering. (It’s a long story but i knew a guy who paid for a lot of my grad school and had connections into the field. He only knew me because of stuttering).