commentr/StutterDecember 13, 2021

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Hello OP! I'm in the same boat as you, having a stutter since around 5. I can very well relate to your situation. People say I'm quiet and don't talk much. All I can think is, sure, how about we give you a stutter and then see how much you talk? Tbh, I'm sick of being an extrovert trapped in an introvert's body. I don't know if you've explored the idea of going in for speech therapy. If you haven't, please consider it. It was a huge step for me to take, which I did when I was around 22 (I'm 27 now), following an extremely embarrassing situation similar to yours. The therapy really works (after a few months of consistent practice) and significantly improves your fluency. I'm now looking at joining a Toastmasters too, primarily so I have a supportive arena to practice incorporating the fluency I've managed to achieve in a speech therapy clinical setting, in more of a real-world setting. Would Toastmasters help you get used to public speaking? Of course it will. Would it help you speak fluently, though? Maybe, maybe not. IMO, a speech therapist is much better trained to help you overcome a stutter. If you can look into a combination of speech therapy + Toastmasters, I think you have a winning combination at hand. If you do decide to consider going in for speech therapy, please please take the time to find a good therapist with good client reviews. When I was 10, my mom had taken me to a neighborhood quack who called herself a speech therapist, and she came up with all kinds of crap about stuttering. Apparently, I read goosebumps books so I'm scared all the time, which causes me to stutter \*facepalm\* My experience with this therapist put me off for a long time, and I didn't even consider therapy for a long, long time. However, around 10 years down the line, I decided to give it another shot, and took the time to find a well-trained therapist who had glowing reviews from other people like me. I visited her, and was astonished at the world of difference compared to my previous therapist. She had deep knowledge about the subject, and genuinely took the time and effort to help me deal with it. I've now moved to the opposite end of the world, but am still very grateful for everything she's done for me. Please look into therapy, the help that this problem needs really is available out there. Apart from helping you overcome this, therapists are also someone you can talk to about daily life. As people with a speech difficulty, we tend not to speak out to others about what we're going through. Having a supportive therapist can help you speak about and process difficult situations in life. When the assistant therapist who was assigned to me left the clinic to pursue higher studies, it was a heartbreaking, gut-wrenching time for me. She was so supportive and friendly, that I'd grown to actually look forward to my weekly sessions with her. Without even realizing, I'd formed a very close bond with her in a matter of a year. I'd just broken up with a 2 year gf of mine, and that didn't hurt even a small fraction of how much it did when my therapist left. Such was the profound effect a speech therapist had on my life. I wish you all the very best, and if you need to talk about anything at all, please don't hesitate to shoot me a PM.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceTherapy & ProfessionalSchool & Work

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Overthinking & MonitoringSeeking TherapyTherapy ExperiencesPositive Therapy TechniquesPublic Speaking

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public_speaking