Judge yourself based on your ACTIONS not your OUTCOMES

Judge yourself based on your ACTIONS not your OUTCOMES This one saying, completely changed my stuttering life. I truly believe ingraining this in your brain will do nothing but wonders for you. It is the the key that unlocks all doors. Actually it doesn't unlock doors, it keeps them open. The door for growth and transformation are always open. It's just peoples current sabotaging mindset that closes them. Let's say you are in a grocery store. You've been looking for pop tarts for 3 minutes already and you are just about to stop. Maybe you are looking in the wrong spot or maybe they are sold out. What are your choices here? You have 3. 1. Continue searching for god knows how long. 2. Assume they are sold out and leave without closure. 3. Ask someone who works there, "hey, do you know where I can find the pop tarts?" But it's been a bad stuttering day, you've stuttered alot, and you know you are going to stutter if you ask that question. Now you are faced with 2 questions. 1. Let my stutter control my actions 2. Control my own actions whether I stutter or not. Let's say you battle internally for 2 minutes, work up a sweat of nerves but finally go and ask the question... It goes horribly. Just the way you imagined. AND THIS is where most people sabotage themselves. They judged themselves on the outcome, NOT the action! Not only does this mindset hinder your progress 1000x over.. but it makes no sense. You are the best you, you could be. You cant just snap your fingers and BOOM, you're completely fine with talking to stranger. No, that's not how it works. Your levels of anxiety and stress when you are walking up to ask the question cant be automatically eliminated in an instant. As you talk, you arent purposely stuttering, you are doing your best. Are you going to get down on yourself for doing your best? That's ridiculous. The fact is that you walked up and spoke, knowing you were going to stutter. You felt the fear and did it anyway. You were consumed by negativity, doubt, anxiety, stress, worry, panic, but you still talked. YOU CONTROLLED your actions. Not your stutter. YOU did. Right now in this moment, that is the ONLY thing you can control. And you controlled the fuck out of it. You were authentic to you and spoke your truth. Everytime you do that, you push past the fear of stuttering into authenticity, your stutter loses power over you. The more power your stutter loses over you, the less its constantly controlling your thoughts and emotions (the 2 main reasons why you stutter in the first place). And over time you do this enough with a healthy mindset that doesn't diminish your self worth everytime you stutter, but actually raises it. You will win at anything you try to do. It all start with judging yourself on your action, not your outcome.