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Ok so fundamentally, this isn't just about a specific set of practical tips and advice. Anything of the sort are essentially just another bag of stuttering tricks. They may provide some relief but won't give you what you truly seek. What I'm trying to point to is making a fundamental shift in your mode of being, such that stuttering will become less and less relevant for you - both symptomatically and the stuttering anxiety you currently feel. So the main practical tip I would give you, is set yourself the aim of being able to live *presently* all the time in *every situation* without *strong attachment* to anything. When you can do that, stuttering thoughts are much easier to let go of. See your life as always happening "now". Any time you anticipate the future (be it a stuttering event, something you have to get done later, etc) or think of the past, recognise that as thoughts and feelings happening right "now". When your stuttering thought comes up, you recognise it as happening now and just let it be. You don't cling to it, you don't fight it, you don't try to push it under a rug. You're just flowing moment to moment. Do not "try" to do anything. Think of it more as gently guiding your attention to where you want it to be, while acknowledging any thoughts or feelings which may be arising. Getting into breathing meditation may be useful. Really important: don't try to control the breath. Aim to just watch its flow, registering any sensations you might experience as you move from one microsecond to the next. If you feel yourself controlling, don't beat yourself up over it, just ensure you know that it's only done right when it's effortless and that that's your intention. Besides formal meditation, living in a space of open awareness where you are receptive to all experiences and feelings, without any strong attachment to any one thing, is generally the way to live. This doesn't mean you are hyperfocused on everything in your perceptual experience at any one time, more so you don't become obsessed about any one thing for too long, and you are generally "open". Focusing on what you are doing is generally the way of cultivating what I'm talking about. When you get distracted, gradually returning to what it is you were doing. But this is not a hard and fast rule, hence the emphasis on open awareness. Things may arise which mean I need to stop whatever I'm doing. We are not mindless robots. Don't think people like me never get lost in thought or maintain some silent mind state 24/7. It's a bit more nimble than that. All sorts of thoughts will come, and sometimes I can get absorbed in them, if only for a few moments. But the difference is how I relate to them once I realise I'm lost in thought - non attachment, flowing to the next moment and watching the thought fade into non existence. Thoughts can be useful. They can give us ideas and guidance. What matters is how we relate to them. The thoughts we give attention to or try to fight and suppress will get more air time. I hope this doesn't sound too vague. Ultimately this is a journey and will take time. You'll need to explore different voices on these topics, and integrate your own understandings. But it will be well worth it.