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childhood trauma hello, i was wondering if yous could help me out here. im trying to work out if I have some form of sub conscious childhood trauma with my dad. Im 21yo, male. Ive been staying at my dads (my parents have been divorced since i was a couple months old) and Ive caught onto how much I stutter around him. its almost every word. Ive been trying to work out why because i can now see that its getting better with my mum and stepdad and its almost non existent at college besides speaking out loud in class. my dads been pushing me to do a stutter course but i keep on telling him that its only really bad when im with him and in his house. i think that there must be some sub conscious thing. backtracking to when i was young, i would get dragged to my dads house every weekend and id spend the nights crying telling him that i wanted to go home. i was scared of him as i seen him as a random guy who took me from my mum each week. when i was with my mum, id sleep in her bed and id always be surrounded by, predominantly, females ie aunties and gran. my stepmum never showed affection to me either, which i now understand. i was a reminder that my dad had a wife before her. she would always criticise me and try pull the negatives out of everything positive i did ive always never felt at home with my dad but over the years, it got better. i felt like my relationship was getting better with him for the past couple years but since i moved in (2 months ago), its gone to shit. i barely speak to him, always try to stay out the house, dont eat as much just to avoid interacting with them. its funny though because my relationship with my stepmum has improved. she asks me if i want stuff from the shop, asks if i have washing. i guess its just motherly instinct since she has kids now. i should also throw in that my dad never believed in me. i was never academically bright, failed most of my exams. he told me that theres no point thinking about uni and tried getting me to do what he thought was best for me. it was funny seeing his face the other night when i told him i was going to apply to do a degree. ​ anyways, what do you think? do you think theres some definite issues here?