I agree completely! The first step to progress is to allow mistakes. Everyone defines mistakes and success - differently. My definition of a mistake is that we consciously react/intervene to the subconscious instinctive triggers. * For example, my instinct says 'oh no a feared letter' resulting in that I subconsciously panic. I don't define this as a mistake, because I have no control over instinctive thoughts/feelings/behaviors * However, if I afterwards do other additional thoughts/feelings/behaviors that I do have control over, then I consider this as a mistake. Because then I'm feeding the monster or fueling the fire with overthinking, overreacting and unnecessarily over-feeling. * I consider something as a success if I learn from my mistake, for example, if I think about a feared letter or I feel anticipatory fear, then by doing exposure therapy, I slowly learn that these triggers are less fearful, probable, true, my true intentions and learn that I had more control over decision-making than I previously thought. A success is when I reinforce awareness, intention, learning, approach behavior (as opposed to avoidance behavior) and a healthy belief system (as opposed to a dysfunctional belief system). A success is when I reinforce direct natural easy effortless speech without reacting, without doing interventions and without distracting myself from intention to breathe out or move articulators (aka primary behaviors) I created [this diagram](https://i.imgur.com/cR9nbyS.jpg) that explains this process in more detail.