commentr/StutterOctober 28, 2018

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Hi! I'm 18, and I totally understand you. I've been stuttering for as long as I remember. I've been through my darkest days, and deepest insecurities and believe me when I say it, I know what it feels like. My stutter hasn't gone away, but it has improved IMMENSELY. See, I've never been to therapies and stuff, mostly because I never considered myself to be going through a "disorder" that needs fixing. I've never been on a stuttering forum, had never met someone who stuttered. I always felt alone and as an outcast. I couldn't even pronounce my own name without stuttering, whenever I was supposed to introduce myself to someone. That bad. Everything will change once you started considering yourself, same as the others. I'll tell you what worked for me. I stopped pitying myself. Stopped thinking "why am I the unlucky one, why did it have to happen to me!" This is the first step. I know it's easier said than done. But I did it. And so can you. Second and the most important step is also the most difficult one: SPEAK. I'll tell you how I started my 2nd step. I never ever uttered a word unless absolutely required, all my life. I was an introvert. But, once in 8th grade, there was an inter-school debate competition and our English teacher was looking for candidates. So she called the brightest of our class and asked each of them to read a para from our book in front of the class. I was somewhat good in studies at those time and my English teacher knew my very well. But we both knew that I stammered and I for one, was sure that she wouldn't call me to read. But once all the students read, at the end she called my name. We both knew she called my name as a gesture (she called all the good students, and she knew I was one so it would be rude not to call me). I went in front of the class, scared death and I read the para, WITHOUT STUTTERING EVEN ONCE. I knew it was by PURE LUCK. And turns out, my pronunciation, voice modulation, voice was perfect. Even I could feel it that I read better than the others. The teacher knew it too. So she asked me "Are you sure you can do it? Go for the inter school? Are you absolutely sure, that you will be able to speak there?" (I low-key knew she was asking with reference to my stutter.) That was the moment everything changed for me. I SAID YES. I, probably the most secluded and introverted person I knew, said yes for an inter-school debate competition, even though I stuttered. And I'm glad I said yes. You won't believe it, ME AND MY PARTNER STOOD FIRST. From grade 8th to 12th, only me and my partner(who's one of my best friends) were the ones who represented our school in any speaking competitions. And we came 1st 87% of times. And I NEVER stuttered in any of the competitions. Not even once. I forgot my lines, got nervous as hell, but never stuttered. My teacher, my friend and my parents should be given all the credit for motivating me to take part and SPEAK, even though they knew about my stutter. They did not pity me. So I thought, why should I? I practiced a LOT before every competition. I used to recite stuff over and over to my teacher and parents. See, if you're confident, there's no stopping you. For confidence, you need to start speaking. I still remember what my mom said when I told her I'm afraid to speak in front of a crowd of 500(the night before my first competition). She told me " then be afraid, and do it anyway." I won't lie to you, I still stutter now. But people don't seem to notice that I do, unless I explicitly tell them that I stutter. Also, I still have many insecurities in life, but having a stutter is NOT one of them. Hope it helps, bro! Feel free to message my anytime! All the best. Edit: Typing from phone in between one of my classes, so pls ignore autocorrect and grammatical errors.

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Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilityCommunity & SupportSchool & Work

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Hope & MotivationAcceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingPersonal StoriesSchool & Academic Life