What if you also see the best in people, while also being aware of the worst? It’s something that has helped me a ton once I started doing it few years back. Because of this I can instantly empathize with whoever I’m speaking to instead of being beholden to their judgement. ‘I’ am the one doing the judgement, and judging them with the most favorable light , which makes me the person everyone looks for validation, instead of other way around. Try it. It’s fun.