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TL;DR no one likes their stutter. No one. Sure, some may find moments of relief and *think* they like it. But, once the dust settles, they will be back at square 1 and, at the very most, they will just learn to live with it. Talking is too important to learn to like not being able to do it and everyone thinking you're less intelligent because you can't. I agree with everyone else. No one *likes* their stutter. After 40+ years of stuttering, I just learned to live with it. It's not easy. And, I am unfortunate in that my stutter is worsening with age so it isn't getting easier. But, you already mentioned this. I think those "success stories" are simply that. Stories. I don't think they come from a person who hasn't gone many years after feeling the breakthrough. It's like how a person with depression will scream "I am cured!" for the first 6 months of treatment. Then, the medication/tool wears off and they are back to square 1... Or, it is entirely possible they are fabricated stories by people who want to sell you something. I am going to talk about myself. I hope this doesn't come across as a humble brag or conceited. I am using it as an example of how it's really just not possible to have a success story with stuttering..... When it comes to stuttering, I was dealt the short straw all around. I am in my 40s and I stutter every 5-8 words and have full vocal lock down (tightening of chest, gasping for air, etc etc) about ever 5-10 words. basically, I can't talk. And when I do, it's frustrating and beyond embarrassing. However, I was very fortunate in other areas. I am considered very intelligent. I got a job in IT and make very good money, my wife hasn't had to work in 20 years. I can limp by in multiple programming languages and I could probably become proficient in any. My problem solving skills are through the roof. I can build such complex things in my mind and I remember so well. Also, I was gifted physically. I am considered attractive and have qualities women like. Even with my severe stutter, I had no problems getting dates with stunning women and married a woman that is far out of my league. Due to my looks, they would approach me and once they got to know me and I them, it was easy to ask them out. But, at the end of the day, none of that means squat when I can't tell someone what is on my mind, how I feel, or what I want. It is frustrating as hell and causes serious issues. On my bad days, my wife will talk to me and I will either type out my response or write it down for her to read. And, I have to do the same thing at work. I am just lucky that I can out think 99% of the people there. Otherwise, I would never find a job anywhere. If it wasn't for technology, I would not make it any other career. Having such a basic and extremely important function taken away, against your will is awful by itself. But, the stigma around stuttering and it meaning you're stupid makes it 1000x worse. It's like being blind but, everyone thinks being blind also means you're stupid.