I can tell you are coming from a good place but advice like this is what makes me personally feel worse about my relationship with my stutter. There is a lot of shame that can be tied to stuttering (I know for me personally there is) and when you have that it feels good to empathize with other people who are going through the same thing. It’s not necessarily being negative or self deprecating but an outlet to feel less alone and therefore less shameful about feelings surrounding our stuttering. Feeling seen by other people who ‘get’ stuttering is a huge key to finding acceptance. Personally I feel even more isolated with I’m in a stuttering support group meeting and say something like ‘doesn’t it suck when...’ and then someone responds by saying something like ‘stuttering isn’t that big of deal’ BAM that shame comes rushing back in. Sometimes people (myself included) need to be consoled where they are at because that is something they have never gotten. Once they’re fully embraced in that space of ‘yeah this does suck’ then they can move on towards more fuller acceptance and be less hindered by their stutter. But you can’t skip through the ‘this shit sucks’ stage of the process. The only way out is through. Your comment felt really personal to me which is why I replied. I’ve had many times where my feelings surrounding stuttering have been minimized by other people and it’s kept me in a shame loop.