A big thing that makes dating harder these days is that the internet of full of echo chambers where dumb ideologiesreach critical mass and leak out. A big one is incel ideology. Rejection is part of dating or making friends, you won't like everyone and not everyone will like you. Sometimes you need to work on an aspect of yourself to connect with people. It can be easier to say some people get a bad roll in life and have no hope of happiness. There is always an answer in eugenics for how your chin isn't wide enough, or your voice isn't bassy enough, or whatever but the reality is that the vast majority of the people you meet don't care about any of the flaws you perceive in yourself.