commentr/StutterOctober 25, 2020

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I’ve never had trouble getting boyfriends, however when I was a teenager or in my early 20s I would do anything I could to hide my stutter, even with my boyfriends. I would never call them on the phone myself, would change words to use “easier” ones, pretend I was looking for a word when it wouldn’t come out etc. In retrospect it was stupid of me to do that but I was younger and with a young age usually comes the willingness to fit in at all costs. Several relationships ended because the guys probably found me a little “plain”... of course I was, I didn’t talk much because I was afraid they would find out that I stuttered. Fast forward 10 years and I am in a relationship with a great guy and have been for a couple years now. I immediately told him about my stutter, he couldn’t care less, and even though I’m still slightly embarrassed when I stutter in front of him, I know he doesn’t care and loves me all the same. And if it can make you feel better, I come from a family with many, many stutterers, and except from one of them (whose stutter isn’t that bad actually but he’s a suuuper shy guy), everyone is happily in a relationship or married with amazing people and they have great kids (and yes some of them have a stutter haha). Good luck and just be true to yourself! You might get a few negative reactions but are they people you would want to date in the first place ?

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Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Hiding & ConcealmentDating & Romance