commentr/StutterJanuary 6, 2018

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I'm sorry about your situation. I've been exactly where you are, and often still are. Feeling frustrated, alone, and wondering why I deserve this. *No one* deserves this, we here just drew the short straw when it came to communication skills at birth. It sucks, but we just have to live with it. Even though you hesitate to do it, I think you should start out every interview by saying: "Hi my name is iliftnoodles, and I stutter. So sometimes it will take a bit longer for me to talk." I have experienced that being upfront about it, gives the impression that you're aware of your difficulty, and also open and honest. I don't know what those people that interviewed were thinking. Maybe they thought "Uhh, doesn't she know she stutters?". Which is of course not true, and completely ignorant. Of course you know. But maybe they feel turned off because they didn't expect it. Some people are more shocked than anything by meeting someone who starts out by stuttering. Have you considered that those who interview might think that you're just an extremely nervous/anxious individual, rather than someone who is born with a speech impediment? That might also be a factor. If they see a socially anxious wreck that is so nervous that they can't even talk, when in reality, you don't stutter because you're nervous, you're nervous because you stutter. Try to be honest about it, even though it's hard. There's a good chance they'll see your honesty, respect it, and even make you stand out from the other canditates. As for the boyfriend part, my speech therapist told me that some people find it attractive. Whereas I told her that maybe if I had a British accent and my name was Hugh Grant, otherwise I didn't believe that worked in real life. And I haven't found any evidence to contradict myself, but I found myself a girlfriend nearly 4 years ago, and she couldn't give less of a fuck about my stutter. Someone is out there for you, no doubt about it, and you will find them eventually. A lot of people who don't stutter also have things they think will keep some single forever, but most end of finding someone eventually.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work

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Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAnxiety & Social JudgmentEmployment & Career

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