commentr/StutterFebruary 17, 2022

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No problem, happy to share! Don’t get too discouraged about the job hunt. I won’t tell you what to do, but I know many people find it helpful to be upfront right away about a tendency to stutter, especially before doing something demanding like an interview or a presentation. I know it’s hard. But if you act cool with it and own it, it does tend to put people at ease. Negative reactions like that tend to be from people not knowing what to do with a situation out of surprise. If you act like you know what to do with the situation, they’ll follow your lead. Most of the time people aren’t thinking “oh no, they stutter, they can’t do the job!”, they’re subconsciously thinking “hm, this is an uncomfortable situation because I can tell they’re uncomfortable that they’re uncomfortable and I’m not sure why/there’s been no acknowledgement so I’m left wondering”, if that makes any sense. Stuttering is a real neurological condition that is more than just nerves. Would you accept someone looking down on you for having a physical disability? Of course not. Confidence in self-advocacy is powerful. A lot of times people will actually put more respect on it than you do but you have to give them something to work with. A simple one-sentence statement is often enough to break that ice, especially if it has an air of nonchalance. You can mention it, maybe ask them to be patient and give you the time to get it out, even though it’s the last thing you feel like doing **laugh and smile about it!!** Hell, even say that you’re nervous for the interview and your stutter gets worse when you’re nervous. It’s no surprise to any interviewer that the interviewee is nervous. You can put it out in the open on your own terms, even if you have to ‘fake it until you make it’. I know it’s all so much easier said than done, especially when you’re trying to get that all out while actually being disfluent in the moment. Just remember that there’s not a single person on this earth who never experiences disfluency every once in awhile, and most everyone finds interviews nerve-wracking. Even though anxiety isn’t the sole cause of stuttering, anxiety causes EVERYONE to speak less fluently, so give yourself grace. Good luck!

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Social & RelationshipsCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability

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Disclosure & Telling OthersSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAcceptance & Pride