commentr/StutterJanuary 31, 2017

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Hi there, I'm a moderator here and I've noticed that you have been a very relevant part of the "negativity" expressed on here. But I will disregard that for now. What you need to understand is that this is a place for people to vent their feelings. Everyone is going through different stages with there stutter and I have had to learn to accept that. /u/ShutUpPussy was the one to make me realize that everyone is at their own stage, and all we can do is support those people. Although, I must say, and I hope people understand, this place isn't therapy. If you haven't tried a speech therpaist yet, see one. The only other thing you can do to improve your stutter is to improve yourself. Eat well, exercise, practice breathing technqiues , research into stuttering and how it works and also different technqiues, start a meditation practice, and so on. I can say though, these "tricks", for example saying "eh" before you say certain words, only make things worse, and GENERALLY make you seem more anxious and therefore confuse the person rather than them becoming understanding that all you're doing is stuttering. If you're saying "eh", bobbing your head, slapping your leg and not keeping eye contact with the person you're talking to, it comes off as extreme lack of social skills rather than stuttering. Stuttering openly (not easy, but can be done) without tricks is not avoiding the problem and people will understand that you're stuttering. There's a thing called the placebo effect, and it's very relevant within stuttering. I suggest you look into it. At the end of the day the best thing you can do is work on yourself, instead of avoiding the stutter and trying to cover it up. Because from experience of talking to 100's of people, that only makes things worse, and makes it harder to eventually work on your stutter in the future. That /u/klinktheviking guy gave you great advice, and it doesn't look like you've taken it. He really put a lot of effort into crafting a response and honestly it's the best way to go about it. Taking things personally and avoiding the subject wont help, a harsh truth that I've had to deal with too. Hopefully this clears things up. All we can do is support the people who are negative and lead them in the right direction.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesMindfulness & BreathingAcceptance & Pride