Congratulations!!! You've taken the first step in owning it by acknowledging that it doesn't define you. I didn't have my epiphany until I was 28 and I'm still learning how to "own it" everyday 13 years later. The best advice I can give you is to stay in the mindset that your stutter doesn't define you and it doesn't matter what people think about you or your speech. You're going to need to do things that probably make you uncomfortable like making phone calls (ordering food, making appointments), ordering at restaurants or going through fast food drive thrus, asking where something is at the store, etc.... People are going to stare, laugh, mock, and make fun of you but in all seriousness fuck them. Your stutter is a great indicator and filter for the type of people that you don't want to associate with and you're going to find that there are a lot more patient and understanding people out there then you think. You will always be self conscious to some degree about your speech and that switch will never be fully turned off but the longer you are able embrace the fact that you are not defined by your speech the easier your life will be not worrying about something that you have little control over. For some background my stutter is pretty severe with blocking and muscle tensing so much that it hurts. I was single with zero friends my entire life up until I had the same epiphany. My boss asked me to make a phone call and up until that point in my life everyone made them for me. When I explained this to him his answer was "So". Those 2 letters changed my life. I called my Mom and asked her to meet me at a restaurant for dinner where I told her that I was going to be okay. I then signed up on eHarmony (back when internet dating was still taboo) where I met my future wife a couple months later. We now have 2 kids and I make sure to embrace that my stutter doesn't define me everyday because I don't want them to see their father being controlled it.