postr/StutterMarch 10, 2021

I’m 26 and i’ve never been in a relationship because of my stutter. It really affects my ability to connect with people because I try so hard to hide it which results to me not being able to be myself

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I’m 26 and i’ve never been in a relationship because of my stutter. It really affects my ability to connect with people because I try so hard to hide it which results to me not being able to be myself I even stopped using dating apps because both times I ended up really liking someone the whole thing just ended because I avoided meeting them. And the one time I actually did meet someone I just ended up being kinda quiet and not be able to have natural conversation. And I even had to drink alcohol before to be able to do it. I’m able to hook up but that’s it because anything that requires actual conversation is too much. It just takes so much effort to avoid stuttering and I end up seeming cold and distant and probably boring. I just can’t bring myself to tell people about it because I’m so afraid of rejection. Also I don’t know how to do it naturally without sounding dramatic. And I feel like my stuttering makes me less attractive and is a turn off for people. And Yeah i’m aware that then those guys aren’t for me but I just cant handle it. Tbh I’m just embarassed of it all. How can I overcome this? I don’t wanna wake up at 40 and still be single because I was so scared to be myself

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentDating & Romance