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Hmm. Forgive me for if I don't understand you here. >It sounds like you're stopping your repetitions by postponing (pausing) before the feared sound. I'm actually not stopping BEFORE the feared sound. I realized I was already pronouncing the feared sound, and making myself stop AFTER already having said the feared sound. Let's say I want to say "Pencil", with the "P" being the problem. We ( I do at least) usually know beforehand when we will stutter and on which things. I would end up going "p-p-p-p-p-p-p-encil". I realized, when I stutter, I'm always already pronouncing the problem letter/word. So when it comes to pausing, I'm pausing after I already pronounced the problem ONCE, and then consciously decide to MOVE ON NOW. To not end up in a loop of me actually saying the P. I just realized, that most stutterers are ALREADY pronouncing their problem letters/words, but in a loop. They forgot they are already pronouncing it, and end up in the loop, on repeat. So the pause is essentially after the problem word, instead of before. It almost feels like we need to reprogram our brain that we do not HAVE to loop, and that we're also allowed to continue. So if I catch myself wanting to stutter (loop) on "b-b-b-b-b-b" of book, I quickly tell myself: You already said "b" (The problem) once, now move on to "ook". It's a real conscious effort, but it takes time for it to become an automtic process. You'll almost realize you don't HAVE to repeat, as long as you're aware of this 'moving on' thing. You realize you can literally choose to NOT loop, and that you can choose to move on to the next sound. This is for me at least. :) At home with my wife and mother, I'm getting pretty good at it. I'm still working on it in public, as anxiety kicks on. Today, I have several things planned with my wife, outdoors, involving a lot of people, and I plan to face my anxiety and to implement this stuff there. Sorry if I might have misinterpreted your piece. I hope all is well! >One thing I will add is you don't need to work on this all day every day to make change. Trying to work on it all day is very exhausting and you can make real change resisting avoidance 2-5 times per day and that is sufficient for change. Change also likely won't be linear so don't worry if you backslide at times, those gains you've made are not gone! Also, this I totally agree on! Allow yourself room. Allow yourself some stuttering. We all do. Non stutterers stutter all the time if you pay attention. :) I feel this brings a lot of space in my head.