postr/StutterJune 11, 2024

Catfishing on dating apps

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Catfishing on dating apps I feel like I am a catfish on dating apps, in the same way as if somebody hid that they sat in a wheelchair. I like talking online (for obvious reasons), but I know that the illusion of being a good communicator must come to an end when meeting in real life. And it’s always terribly humiliating. I always come back to dating apps, even though I know the reality of it. I just like to live in a bubble of hope where I imagine myself happily with the other person. I feel like I waste the other person's time, tricking them into believing I am a normal guy. And no, I don’t want to say early on that I have a stutter. One, because it's weird, and second, because I simply don’t want to. I want to be normal. The solution would be to have "I have a stutter" in the bio, but no. I guess I just hope that I get lucky and meet someone who knows how to handle it, without needing it. I don't know where I was going with this, maybe I am just tired of getting rejected. I feel like Philippe from *The Intouchables*, without the happy ending of course.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingDating & Romance