I met my fiancee on a dating app. We've been together for almost six years. I echo the comments others have posted here: cheesy, but you really do have to be yourself. Sometimes I'm really fluent around my fiancee, and sometimes I stutter pretty badly, but I always feel safe and not judged. That feeling of unconditional safety and support is really life-changing. Also, I think you might be assuming that most women only want attractive men! It might take time and patience, but women looking for a ltr are interested in honesty, mutual respect, and communication. My unsolicited advice for whatever its worth: I'd say keep yourself on the dating sites, put yourself out there a little more, but also focus on building your own life. Treat yourself as your own SO. Take yourself out to a nice restaurant or the movies, make your home really nice, go on cool trips solo or with friends, excercise (if that's your thing), read, get a dog, try new things -- it's a can't-lose strategy. Chances are you'll attract someone because she sees you happy and fulfilled. And if it takes a little longer, well, you've built this cool-ass life to enjoy.