Yes, yes, and yes. Though....eh, I'd add, you don't have to be totally confident all the time. I don't think I'm the only female who finds a little bit of insecurity/shyness in a guy sexy.... Also, faking confidence can work. Fake it til you make it; act as if -- all of that. But it's also OK, and even endearing, to say "I have this thing that makes me self-conscious sometimes." -"The whole 'league' thing is usually perpetuated by people who haven't had much relationship experience and can't understand why she's with him or he's with her." YES. Exactly. Yes yes yes.