I get you. No matter how confident I feel people told me that I get across as insecure. It makes me mad because I don't feel that way and I know that 's because of my stutter. I'm pretty outgoing and vocal and I attend a lot of workshops and actively participate in discussions, also I've facilitated workshops myself. I think such comments are patronising and ableist. My reaction to them is: why do you think that? And I do not let them get away with: ohh don't know that's just impression.