commentr/StutterJanuary 28, 2025

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I don’t have the best advice because I don’t have much experience dating after 18 because I was with my ex for 16 years, but I can share my experience. And I am also struggling now at 34. Dating apps and social media have really changed dating for the worse. Anyway, confidence is key. Keep eye contact when you’re speaking, act like your stutter doesn’t bother you even if it does. Smile a lot. Be able to laugh at yourself. And just be yourself. If you don’t let it bother you, it will show. And this applies to really any life situation as a stutterer. It’s a weird concept but a stutter actually helps filter out people who aren’t going to be good for you anyway. If they don’t even have the patience to listen, they’re a pretty garbage person anyway. It’s not our choosing to stutter. Is it hard to do all the stuff I said? Absolutely lol. Does it make finding someone harder? Absolutely. I always disclose that I stutter before meeting somebody as well.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Hiding & ConcealmentHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideDating & RomanceDisclosure & Telling Others