I understand that point of view, and as a person who had a severe stutter for a good majority of my life (I'm 29 now & had a severe stutter well into my teens & early 20's), I can't help but feel like most people who stutter need to accept the fact that they do indeed have a role to play in how much they let it affect their lives. All my life I felt like there was nothing I could do until I pulled my head out of my ass & started putting myself in uncomfortable situations until I hit the point that the fact that I stuttered didn't bother me nearly as much as it used to. Once I was able to accept the fact that I have a stutter & legitimately be okay with it, I found that my anxiety (& thus the severity of my stutter) was greatly diminished. From my experience at least, stuttering & anxiety go hand in hand. Like you said though, it is a very personal experience & my experience doesn't necessarily correlate with everyone else's experience, so I do respect your point of view.