commentr/StutterOctober 13, 2024

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Before pills, there may be other things you can try. For me it was to cut off and walk away from that which gave me some of the worst anxiety. It is not to avoid stuttering situations or anything but rather to cut bad influences and waste of time and energy from your life to focus on what's important. For me it was things like social media, even discord, that ramped up my anxiety. What helped me was to see it as a pond. Inside the pond was drama and it's own world but we can step out of the pond, let the sun or moonlight reach onto us and be free from it. What goes on inside that pond no longer has anything to do with us, we've stepped out of it and are free from the anxiety and worry, it's all left behind in the pond and the organisms within. You can rise above it all. In the real world, people tend to be nicer and more understanding interacting face to face with each other. Everyone knows the idea of putting yourself in someone elses shoes so there is more compassion as we see each other. There is also more freedom away from the time consuming anxiety prone areas in life you may be accustomed to. It gave me time to work out again, see my nieces and nephews, go to the mall, and just enjoy the little things in life without being consumed or distracted by anything else. After talking to a psychiatrist who was planning to prescribe something for me in a week depending on my progress (I asked to wait on it myself), the best thing I did was to cut out and burn the bridge from the bad spaces in my life, work out, see family, continue on back to work and I realized I am much better with people and people are far nicer in real life than we imagine assuming the worst in our heads. The next week I was doing so good, she was shocked at how resilient I was within just a week and told me to remember it, that the anxiety can come and go and that the mind and body changes and is resilient with time and the changes you allow for it. I only needed to see her once and the second time was just to show and go over my improvement and no pills necessary. I recommend cutting out of your life for good the time consuming anxiety prone toxic areas that can become an addiction and hard to look away from, whether that be twitter, discord, etc, if you want to begin getting a handle on your anxiety (humans don't like or do good with uncertainty so the best thing that has the biggest impact I believe is a choice with no uncertainty, make the choice). From there, healthy alternatives to take that time and space you've created for yourself like working out, eating healthy, seeing little kids in your family really warms the heart too because they grow so fast. Eating healthy and working out will effect your gut and microbiome within you which itself has a big impact on how we feel, how comfortable we are in our own skin. Our gut bacteria and so on is always communicating with the brain so sometimes how you feel may not even be from experiences in your life, but more so how your microbiome feels and how your metabolism is doing. All of this effects our anxiety levels and how we feel about ourselves. So eliminating the known toxic waste of time from our lives and time in the day, even if there is some good within it, maybe some friends you know, It is not worth the impact the bad has. The "friends" within that pond may just be an excuse to continue a bad distraction, drama dopamine hits we may become accustomed and addicted to without knowing or admitting it. It is really liberating to free yourself of it, step out of the pond and let that world be amongst itself, you don't need it. Set goals, work out, have time for education, work, time with family, good friends, people in the real world. You may realize that unlike our brain wants us to believe, to make us always ready for and in survival mode towards, people in the real world aren't aggressive nor out to get us. They go through what we go through, always thinking of themselves. Think of every person that passes by as having their own thought bubble imagining what everyone else thinks of them the same was you do of yourself. And it becomes a liberating cancellation effect. People are just as vulnerable as you are, and go through the same thoughts and feelings. All of this serves to help accepting ourselves and for me at least, without the need for anxiety pills. Help eliminate some glaring sources of anxiety, work out and eat more healthy to keep your body and it's gut bacteria and more from producing any unnecessary anxiety and rather good feelings instead, and enjoy the extra time you have not taking the rest of life for granted because we are not immortal, life goes by, a day at a time. Notice with the above I'm not mentioning my stutter much because even if we don't have as much control over our stutter, when we have a positive impact on that which we do control, it has a downstream effect on our stutter and more, leaving it to become less of a worry and more of a curiosity in life. Either way, we might as well make positive impactful changes on that which we can control. I also know that no matter how someone looks on the outside, no one is perfect, and they are dealing with their own depression and/or challenges. They all have their thought bubbles worried about what others thinks of them and worried about their own circumstances with no time to worry for yours unlike the way our brain worries that everyone is thinking of us and what we do. No one actually does beyond feeling for us and admiring our perseverance if we do stutter. No matter how they "seem" to us. I learned this by getting sales I thought for sure I had lost. They came back with praise for me and taking the job for the thousands I quoted for when I had just assumed with their reaction the worst. It's never the case. We assume the worst and it's a waste of time and energy to do so. Work on your health and wellness, start cutting out the bad and toxic time wasters, and see your anxiety improve no matter our stutter or challenges.

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Emotional ExperienceCauses & VariabilitySocial & Relationships

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Anxiety & Social JudgmentStress & Fight/FlightHope & MotivationQuality of Life