postr/StutterFebruary 16, 2021

I am 53 years old and only recently told by my mom I had a stutter as a kid.

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I am 53 years old and only recently told by my mom I had a stutter as a kid. I never made fun of people with stutters, and I always stuck up for people that did stutter. Now I know why. I did make fun of people for a variety of reasons as people do, but generally over harmless things and never took it too far. I never wanted to be the Center of attention as this would get me a bit tounge tied as well. Now I know why. I had a stutter and lisp when I was a kid. Speech therapy fixed the lisp and I grew out of the stuttering to a point. That point is when I’m really pissed off about something. If I’m in a heated argument with anyone, the stutter comes out. My point is immediately ignored and I get made fun of. Even by my wife and kids. This made me avoid confrontation. I always thought it was just nervousness but nope. It’s gotten better over the years because I never knew I had a stutter! Apparently my mom just ignored it. She recently told me about it and said,” you never knew?” I just thought I was just bad at confrontation. I just learned not to be confrontational and I wouldn’t stutter. Since then I really get my feelings hurt when I get emotional/heated and I get made fun of by my wife and kids. They don’t do it as much anymore since they didn’t realize it was a stutter, but if I start to get worked up I just stop talking and leave the room. It works but now I know why I get resentful. I can’t get my point across unless I remain unemotional and it comes out as cold or cruel. Or I stutter and it becomes comical. I’m not sure why I am posting here as I have it easy compared so many others. I guess I just subconsciously understood what people go through.

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Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

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Stress & Fight/FlightFrustration & AngerIdentity & Self-PerceptionDisclosure & Telling Others