commentr/StutterNovember 23, 2018

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I'm a 15 year old guy who also stutters. In my case, I used to be afraid of social interactions and I'm still in some cases. What has worked better for me is thinking in what I want in life: Do I want to be happy and have friends or do I want to stop stuttering? What really matters is not stuttering in itself, it's what you are not allowed to do because of it, as you said. So, if you finally win some confidence and try to interact with people and discover those who do respect you (in my case I thought that everybody was going to be unrespectful to me as I had only met that kind of people; nonetheless, once you meat a good person, you will see that there are many other people like them). The most important thing to realize is that you are the first person who thinks that you are not worthy because of your stuttering. When you happen to become aware of this and change your way of thinking, you will feel free, you will not give as much importance as you did to stuttering, thus you will stutter less, although you may also experiment times in which you can't make a single sound, as every stuttere does. As I said, you must ask yourself if stuttering in itself is something that important or if what really matters is what you think you cannot do owing to your stuttering. For example, I end up stuttering in almost every question that I ask in class, still I ask them because I am not embarrased of this. If you show yourself not embarrased of this, other people may also not percibe it as something that bad. In order to achieve that, I advise you to meet people who really respect you and to do daily activities which are productive, like drawing or learning a new language, so that you can show yourself that you are worthy despite the fact that you stutter. Sorry if there are any gramatical mistakes, I'm spanish and I may have translated literally from spanish some sentences without realizing. In case that you can correct it would be appreciated.

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Emotional ExperienceSocial & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilitySchool & WorkCommunity & Support

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Anxiety & Social JudgmentFriendships & BelongingAcceptance & PrideEmployment & CareerIdentity & Self-PerceptionPersonal Stories