commentr/StutterDecember 15, 2020

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I've got workarounds I use, though I hate using them. And it is interesting how being able to insert a word or two up front really helps. Of course the easy way is to start with "uh". And that usually works. When I answer the phone, it's "uh, hello." I've started timing it where I say the "uh" as I'm bringing the phone to my face so it may not even be audible. On audio-conferencing calls I'll intentionally stay on mute. Then when someone says "Hey Fred, You're on mute". I can unmute, say a quick apology, and get my name out. "Oh sorry guys, can't get used to zoom!. I'm Fred Bear, and I work on yadda yadda yadda." Other times I'll just start with a "Hey everybody. Nice to meet you. I'm Fred Bear." My general conclusion is that if I can put myself in a position where I *have* to improvise a little, I'll be more able to get my name out. It's the 2-3 minute dread that builds as everyone else introduces themselves that makes me block on my name. Same with my phone number. I struggle with "five", which happens to be the first digit of my area code. I've started saying my phone number as "123-4567. Pause. Oh, the area code is 567". I really dislike using these crutches, and depending on the situation I may avoid them. If I'm going to have a long conversation with someone, I'll just deal with the stutter up front. "Hi, I'm F-F-F-F-F-F- -- I'm sorry, I have a stutter, I'm Fred Bear".

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Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling OthersFeared Words & Names

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saying_name_introductiontelephone_video