commentr/StutterApril 23, 2023

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You are focusing on the blocks and how stuttering is bad. Originally, I talked about "acceptance of fear and negative emotions". You turned it into "acceptance of stuttering". In my last post I asked you questions, about dealing with stuttering and how you feel. Again, you went to dwelling on how long it takes you to get words out. This goes back to my original point. All the therapy in the world, by the best therapist in the world, isnt going to help if you do not have a healthy relationship with your stutter. Fear is going to fight back hard and its going to prevent you from achieve any fluency whatsoever. Translation: at this point of your journey, it is my opinion you are focusing on the wrong things. I strongly urge you google "iceberg analogy of stuttering" The basic concept is the stuttering is on the surface, but behind it all we have all these negative emotions that manifests stuttering into this monster that dominates every action of your life. So you cut off " the head" (aka stutter). As long as the 90% is still there (the negative emotions), the stuttering monster will just grow a new head. You need to cut the body off in order to eliminate the head. I realized I was spinning my wheels to put 100% of my energy into 10% of the problem. If you peruse this subreddit, a lot of the "older folks" share this sentiment one way or another.

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Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience

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Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingAnxiety & Social Judgment