commentr/StutterJanuary 30, 2017

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To everyone in this sub, The negativity in this sub stems from the young demographic in this sub. I know I'm of the minority being in my thirties and when I first found this sub, I wrote a genuine open letter urging people to not give up and to stay positive. That's all you can really do in the face of this unnerving problem. It WILL get better but you have to be fuckin' positive in order to let the change overtake you. It will get better but you must work at it too! I get it. I was young too and I stuttered like a silly bitch and it caused all kinds of pain and anguish. But it got A LOT better. I still have my moments but believe you me, fluency is a mindset that is bolstered by self-belief, a positive outlook and just all around guts. I wish you young people could see past the doom and gloom of tomorrow, whether tomorrow is some class meeting where you have to speak in public or some group project where you're forced to talk to your classmates. Life extends way past that shit and over the horizon. I went through all of those traumatic experiences and it did not end me. Thinking about those trying times doesn't even bother me right now. You'll get over it. But you guys have to give yourself hope. I don't care if what I just said sounds like a movie cliche because hope is amazing in any goddamn context. Hope is the dream for a better you and when you get older and stay vigilant and positive, you'll discover that you were strong the whole entire time. Strong people can be sad, strong people can be miserably and negative. That's fine. Nobody is ultra-confident and infallible all the time. But by the same token, you have to learn that enough is enough and close down the pity party. Strong people do not give up, so don't. What else are you going to do? Kill yourself? No, you're not. You're just feeling really frustrated and you're seething at the universe at why you were born this way. But know this. You're already strong as fuck inside. Know that this stutter has made all of you incalculably stronger than regular people. We've had to go through shit that nobody else will understand. All that pain and anguish and misery inside you can be re-purposed into angry motivation. Be proactive. Your journey is your own! Learn the cures that work for you. Practice them. Breathe easy. Remember to relax goddamn it! Take yoga. Try L-Theanine and phenibut. Download a public speaking VR app and practice in the safety of your room. Drive to the beach and scream at the ocean like Demosthenes. Brew up some Kava kava. Get drunk and sing karaoke at a bar. Boost your endorphins with working out. Get out there and live and screw up and learn to laugh at yourself and not take things so serious. Nothing is ever as cataclysmic as you make it out to be. Get over yourself so you can get on with yourself.

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Causes & VariabilityCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Stress & Fight/FlightMindset shiftHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception